The Founder Story
I grew up in chaos, where boundaries didn’t exist. What I ate, who I spent time with, and even how I lived were decided for me. As a child, I would say I was full, finish my bowl, and watch it immediately get refilled. Decades later, I still felt the urge to keep eating even when my body clearly said enough.
A Life Without Boundaries
Privacy didn’t exist either. Family members walked into my room whenever they wanted until one day I installed a lock myself. The friends I brought home were judged instantly; either they “smelled bad,” “weren’t educated,” or “weren’t rich enough.” Eventually, I started subconsciously judging people the same way, creating invisible walls without understanding why.
At school, my mind constantly felt blank. I couldn’t focus because it felt like my parents’ voices were always nearby. Compliments felt fake, conversations felt threatening, and criticism felt constant. My body had learned to shut down long before I understood what overwhelm actually was.
Survival Mode
As I got older, that shutdown turned into defensiveness and fight-or-flight reactions. Relationships suffered the same way. During a four-year relationship filled with constant arguments, I realized I couldn’t explain my emotions, only defend myself. When conflict came up, empathy disappeared and survival mode took over. Eventually, I walked away and promised myself I wouldn’t enter another relationship until I understood what was happening inside me.
This is the time when my mind and body just shut down from stress, to a point I had difficulties processing thoughts, emotions, and couldn't feel.
2015
Eight Years of Self-Discovery
Over the next eight years, I went deep into self-discovery. I came off medications after 13 years and met a spiritual coach who introduced me to trauma exercises, journaling, and mindfulness practices focused on releasing stored tension in the body. I started seeing the difference between who I actually was and the survival patterns I had built around myself.
Supplement photos, excluding the medications I was experimenting with to feel better.
The Book (Launching Soon!)
The (Upcoming) Boundaries book was created to help people become more aware of their body, space, and energy, so they too can recognize survival patterns and “undo them” layer by layer.
Through our team’s collective effort and personal experiences, it teaches methods to break these patterns caused by lack of boundaries, so people can build healthier relationships in their work, relationships and life. Just like I did.
Peace and Perspective
Today, I’m at peace with my parents and with myself. Looking back, I don’t blame them. These patterns were passed down through generations without awareness. But going through all of it gave me the understanding, tools, and perspective to rebuild myself and help others do the same.
Something started changing after some experiments, but there were layers underneath. Still trying to fit in, by changing who I am.
2023
The Transformation
Who would’ve thought the same person who was too afraid to even step outside his house and meet people, would now have the confidence and energy to travel across the world. From the smoky street markets of Taiwan, to the old roads of Spain. All the way to the beaches of Mexico. Living a whole year in Thailand, and traveling to Japan- all while leading the team. I mention this to prove that, regardless of how difficult the situation is, it’s still possible to break through and create change.
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-Josh, Founder
